Today I'd like to talk about the comments I've received. I appreciate and love the support. I think it's great that my family for the first time in years has a daily family meeting. What a great gift to have even your parents supporting you at this age. Thank you.
Now here comes the but... I've always had a very hard time accepting compliments and I've never liked to draw attention to myself. This blog does both. Its wonderful therapy for my addiction, but it also helps me accept compliments and brings attention to myself. I need to learn how to accept both gracefully, but until then...
I don't want any of my loved ones to think they need to comment. I'm only bringing this up because I know all of you very well. I know you're thinking "I wouldn't comment if I didn't want to, I'm doing it because I like to and love you." I know, but I also know that part of you probably thinks that if you don't comment I'll think you've quit reading, or I'll start drinking again, or you don't care. This will not happen. I just want you to know that I know you are there for me no matter what. I appreciate and love the comments, but I also feel bad about them. I feel like I've obligated you to something else in your busy lives and that you think I need you to read daily and that's not the message I want to send.
Basically, I feel selfish, and you know how much I loath selfishness! So I decided to change a few things so the blog is more user friendly. This gives you a chance to screen it and decide if you want to continue reading. I'm adding a few things:
1. CRAVOMETER: This new addition to the blog lets you know how I'm doing without having waste time while in a hurry. This will be on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being 'ready to relapse'. This way if you don't have much time, but still want to be there for me you can gage how many comments and support you think I need. For instance, if the 'cravometer' reads 4, I'm okay. If the next day, it's 5, then 6, then 7, then 8, feel free to jump in any time.
2. TODAY'S MOOD: Because this is the closest thing I have to a Facebook, 'today's mood' will be like my 'Status'. This feature will help let you know before reading the blog what kind of mood I'm in. That way, if you prefer the serious posts but are annoyed with the sarcastic ones you can screen it to save yourself the disappointment.
3. DAILY THANK YOU NOTE: A way for me to give thanks daily. This is also very therapeutic.
4. DAILY COMPLIMENT: This gives me the opportunity to give back to my friends and family. The comments you've provided are so heart felt and help so much. They are daily compliments in my eyes and I thank you for this. This will give me the chance to recognize you 'givers' out there.
5. DAILY HOMEWORK: This is just a fun addition for you self-help junkies out there who love a challenge.
For those of you who think I'm crazy, just read comment number one on Day 21 blog. The Old Feller makes me laugh. Just for his sake, I've decided in addition to all of my new additions, I will also start naming my blog posts. The name will be like a Chapter title in a book. I will make sure it appropriately sums up the post for even more 'easy reading', or not reading. Example: Day 21 would've been titled TIPS FOR WEIGHT LOSS SUCCESS. Had I labeled it, The Old Feller could've saved himself a minute or two. Hee hee.
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Love it, love how your mind works to come up with these genius ideas. Looking forward as usual to your blogs, people's comments, it is truelly the highlight of my days. Thanks for putting yourself out there. God's Blessings to you lil girl.
So much for the K.I.S.S. theory...well if this blog gets like the 800-numbers where you dial 1 for this, 2 for that, get put on hold so long you forgot what you called for...maybe I'll have to alot more time...hmmmmmm....we will see...glad I make you laugh.
Getting compliments & doing well is not selfish, & I promise it's therapy for me to get to be a part of this process as well. I'm so happy that you are turning your back on the most selfish creature out there & turning your beautiful face toward the sunshine (well-deserved barrage of compliments, support, etc.).
I'd also like to poll your readers & see just how many of us have altered our food/alcohol/cigarette/tobacco intake or changed the way we go about our lives since reading your inspiring blogs. You have helped me make think twice about my parenting techniques; I've slowed down a bit, taking more time with the kids, and even watched Honey We Shrunk Ourselves with them tonight. My son BEGS me to watch him play XBOX which is my equivalent of getting cavities filled or eating beef stroganoff. I watched him play yesterday & he was the happiest kid in (I was going to say America--oops) Japan.
ok first of all-you can be as selfish as you want! You are doing the best thing you can do for yourself-read your last blog-it says how great you feel and your heart feels better-hello girlie your awesome and be selfish damn it! I love reading your blogs everyday-it also makes me think twice about stuff I do about my day-to answer anonymous's question this blog has helped me alot with my addiction to food-plus I feel like I'm part of the "FAM!" So be proud of what your doing-I know we all are!
I agree with jgoogs. Reading your blogs daily inspires me to have the best day I can and to avoid the things I should like that second pop of the day or that yummy candy bar. I find myself thinking, if survivor can be so strong each day, then I can too. Also, we read your blog cuz we want to and not cuz we feel we have to. I honestly read it for many reasons: to hold you accountable, to inspire myself, for a good laugh or a good cry, to feel like I am in your state with you, to make up for the lost time of being a barely-there sister which I feel sick about, and to watch you grow and change. Please don't think any of us feels obligated to read or comment. We just want to! I love you soooooo much.
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